Episode 249: Who Can You Trust? Navigating Relationships with Discernment
With Jeff and Terra Mattson
In this episode, we dive into the wisdom of trust—how to discern safe relationships, set healthy boundaries, and grow into a trustworthy person. We explore the concept of "green light, yellow light, and red light" people, helping you navigate relationships with wisdom and grace. Whether in leadership, marriage, or community, learning to trust wisely while becoming a person others can trust is essential for growth. Join us as we unpack practical insights to strengthen your discernment and relational health.
Takeaways
The Green, Yellow, and Red Light Framework: A practical way to discern safe relationships and set healthy boundaries.
Oversharing as a Trust Signal: Sharing too much too soon can indicate a broken trust meter, while withholding trust completely can signal past wounds.
Trust as a Personal Responsibility: Before expecting trust from others, we must first cultivate our own trustworthiness.
Pain and Its Impact on Trust: Trauma and past hurt can push us from being “green light” people to “yellow” or even “red,” but healing is possible.
Jesus’ Model of Trust: Even Christ was intentional with His inner circle—discerning where to place our trust is an act of wisdom, not fear.
Evaluating Relationships with Wisdom: Observing behavior over time helps us determine who is genuinely safe and who might be using us for their own needs.
Leading with Discernment: Whether in marriage, leadership, or community, wisdom in trust-building fosters stronger, healthier relationships.
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Jeff & Terra
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